Abstract:

Gain clarity on whatever closet you are in right now.

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Last week a close friend and I went to see a performance of La Cage Aux Folles (aka The Birdcage.  Remember the movie with Robin Williams and Nathan Lane?).

La Cage teaches us two critical lessons.

We All Have Closets

First, once you “come out,” there is really no going back!  And I would argue this is true for LGBTQ people as well as for straight people.  Closets transcend the sexual.   The “right-wing”, straight,  French politician temporarily pushes the gay men into the closet, but their inherent fabulous-ness propels them back out and it makes for great entertainment.

How many times in your life did you allow others to stop you from being who you are?  What closet can you come out of, now?  Who can help you?

Who are You?

Second, I left the performance thinking how within communities, all communities, we can be equally as brutal and cruel when it comes to judging physical appearance, lifestyle, and professional and personal “choices.”

Why do we allow others to determine our boundaries?  How is that serving us?

Who is to say what is “too much” or “too daring” or “too crazy” or “too unconventional?”  I am not implying we should all wear 6 inch heels (I would fall down a lot, not to mention almost 7 feet tall!). However, have you ever noticed how people who both literally and figuratively dress in drag seem to have so much more FUN?  Just watch RuPauls Drag Race, they are having a blast.

You do not have to be a lesbian, gay, bisexual or transgendered person to understand and grapple with your own claustrophobic closet.  Come on…this is about human authenticity, regardless of sexual orientation.

What do you hide about yourself that prevents you from living the life you want?

What can you do now to “come out” and be fabulous?

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