I grew up in a household with a mom who thought she was one break away from being a Broadway star.  She would say, only half jokingly before each of her local drama club performances, “My public awaits me!”

She loved to inject life with a dose of flare especially during the ordinary times.  She loved drama, the lighter side of it mostly.

So the acorn does not fall far from the tree.  Most people who know me would argue that I have consistently fashioned a life that values breathtaking changes and experiences.

Many times though the darker side of drama has reared its ugly head.  This is the drama we manufacture and it makes life harder than it needs to be.

For example, I would not be candid with a friend who wanted more than friendship, causing unnecessary heartache.  I would complicate a project, creating resentment.  I would use anger to hide my own fears and vulnerabilities, alienating a dear family member.

You see in the past I often created external drama to cope with internal upheaval.  It was a wonderful distraction . . . and wholly unhealthy.

Moreover, I made matters worse by equating the absence of drama with words and concepts like boring, dull, ordinary, straight, conventional, or risk-averse.

Lately, however, healthy change is happening in my life, and not surprisingly, without the darker side of drama.

I now live in a wonderful apartment in a cool neighborhood in one of my favorite cities.  Although I live alone, I do not feel lonely very often and when I do I either just feel it, reach out to a friend, or go out on a date.  It’s not rocket science.

I have a career that I created with the help of two cool and kooky colleagues.  Work seems like play.  It’s a blast and a wild ride.

I have friendships that I have sought out and therefore I have lots of connections with people who are interested in talking about more than just the weather.

I am dating again after years of post-breakup introspection.  I look forward to a heartbeat next to me each night (the same one!).

So I am falling out of love with darker side of drama as I once understood it.  Bring on the ordinary, because in fact, for me, ordinary is quite extraordinary.

If you like a spontaneous lifestyle, find ways to inject your life with a healthy dose of experimentation but without needless and often narcissistic drama.  Trust me, you will feel happier and more grateful.

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